Beavertalk

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We would like to Thank Vera Zyla who is the Co-owner and Sex Educator of The Art Of Loving Store located in Vancouver Canada…All the products featured on the show today are compliments of Vera. Unfortunately for us, they are on loan and not ours to keep!

www.TheArtOfLoving.ca

First question when thinking about exploring into a shop like this…What are we looking for when we go to a Sex Toy Store, or if we are shopping on line?…What types of things are offered, and how do we educate ourselves to know what are we need?

All shipments are packaged discreetly in either a plain brown cardboard box or bubble packed shipping envelope, the return address for this particular store reads TAOL, not The Art of Loving. Nothing on the packaging identifies the nature of the contents. For shipments to the U.S. the required customs sticker identifies the contents as “toys”.

To clean a 100% silicone toy, you may use a 10% bleach solution, an antibacterial soap. To clean jelly or hard plastic toys, hot soap and water with a good rinse is the best way. Most toys can be cleaned with running hot water over them and occasionally rinsing with alcohol for disinfecting. Some toys are Porous and should be used with a condom! That doesn’t sound like fun…These toys are usually less expensive so it may be worthwhile splurging on a good toy that costs a little more…less worries about disease etc…

For those of you new to exploring a different avenue to sex, there are many great seminars offered to get you in the mood!

Giving Good Head: Blow more than your lovers mind! Watch a few DVD clips of some famous blowjob artists at work and learn some new moves!

How to Have a Great Orgasm: Ever have an orgasm that makes your whole body shake and toes curl? Learn how to have one! This course is a woman’s guide to self-pleasure that includes all the details from the basics of getting started to more advanced tips and techniques.

The Art of Flirting: This is a powerful skill! Techniques presented in this seminar will help you express your inner flirt through words and body language. Learn some creative opening lines, whether you want to flirt online, on the phone or in person, this seminar will help.

G-Spot: This workshop will help you to discover the secrets of the G-Spot and female ejaculation. Illustrations will help you find your G-Spot or someone else’s. DVD clips will be on hand to help you with the visual. You will also learn which sexual positions and toys can help a woman enhance the sensation of [tag-tec]G-Spot orgasm[/tag--tec] by herself or with a partner.

Tie Me To The Bedpost: Does the image of somebody being tied to the bedpost intrigue you? Whether you’re the one wanting to be tied up or the one in charge experimenting with BDSM can be a completely consensual, incredibly sexy experience. Learn about safety, communication, basic bondage cuffs ropes knots and flogging techniques. Complete with a live demonstration this seminar is a perfect evening where you can give yourself permission to explore and go where you’ve never gone before.

Suck It Like A Porn Star: What is the difference between a good blow job and a great blow job? A helpful way to know what men crave is to hear a man tell it like it is. Vera Zyla co-owner/sex educator of The Art of Loving has been sharing her expert tips and techniques on giving good head for years and Daniel Packar playfully give you the inside scoop into how to perfect the performance that will get you excited and drive him crazy. This is very educational and very fun two hours filled with laughs, learning and lube. Daniel Packard is on the radio, in newspapers, and has performed with Dr. Sue Johanson, giving women fun, funny, blunt insight into how men REALLY think.

TIE ME UP: Does BDSM intrigue you, but intimidate you at the same time? Come explore your kinky side! Learn about safety, communication, and basic bondage and flogging techniques (complete with a live demonstration!) in a fun, non-judgmental environment.
(Other courses that sound interesting …Boner Management, Sex Talk 101, Light His Fire.

Other Products at The Art Of Loving::

Vibrators: There are many varieties that we haven’t talked about many sizes and shapes…
Books: There is a great big beautiful book I saw when I was in the store, all about penises. It is about $60 and well worth it, if you like to look at 8×10 photos of all colours and sizes of the big guy! It would be a great gift for a Gay Man…Nice coffee table accessory!
DVDs: Lots of different types of instructional seminars
Guy Gear: Toys and Clothing
Lubes: Tasty treats for the body and not are ALL available
Anal Toys: Talked about much more openly now than in the past…still, not for everyone…
Dildos and Harnesses: Not just for Gay people!
Dress-up clothes: Nurses Outifts, [tag-tec]Naughty Schoolgirl[/tg-tec], French Maid, you name it
Waterproof Gear: For the bathtub, shower or hot tub or beach rendezvous…wherever you want to get wet…
Kink & Fetish: Clothes and items Games and Novelties: Fun stuff for parties etc

Gift Certificates: A great gift for the bride/groom to be or birthday for spouse or friend…it could lure a shy person into unchartered waters so to speak, just by giving it to them, the gift certificate will get them in the front door…then look out and see what happens! Watch our video for a “visual” of the products offered in today’s show. Have fun everybody, explore your wild side…xoxo the beavers

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Sandra and I don’t usually get into the Hollywood gossip much, because we feel that enough magazines and television shows already cover that!…But the beavers would like to add our comments to the recent headlines involving Jennifer Aniston and Angelina Jolie…

First of all, our hats go off to Jennifer for having the class that she has had all the way through this horrible break-up with her husband Brad Pitt! She hasn’t said one thing negative while the Paparazzi put cute little pictures of the new happy couple all over the Internet! Why doesn’t Angelina ever get dissed in the media? It is like she is on this big pedestal and everyone tippy toes around her…

Jolie —earns $12-15 million a movie and is generating Oscar talk for her new movie,The Changling. (She plays a mother whose son is kidnapped). Aniston, makes approximately $8 million a movie playing Ben Affleck’s love interest in the adaptation of the best-selling relationship book: “He’s just not that into you”. Regardless of the fact that Angelina makes more money per movie, the bigger box office draw is Jennifer, because people relate to her more than Angelina, a woman that hangs a vial of blood around her neck. (Plus Jennifer is the girl that millions of women can relate to after being dumped, for another woman!)

Jennifer’s personality has spunk and everyday qualities that are not categorized as a Diva like Angelina…Which girl would you invite out on a girls stag? Angelina always plays the bad girl roles…it suits her dark persona. How often do you see her with a girlfriend in public? She’s not a “girl’s girl” at all…While she is stunningly beautiful, we will give her that; she doesn’t seem to be a happy person.

What is with all the adoptions? Shouldn’t you show love to one child and make them comfortable in their new surroundings before signing the paperwork on another? How can she possibly be able to give that much attention to each child?? They all require different things before another one comes along to steal the moment. Something must be missing from her life…Which is probably why Brad was the chosen one. She NOW admits that she fell in love with him on set of their movie!! YA THINK???? Brad lacks a lot of character for falling for his leading lady while he was married! Angelina is very seductive but her name should be the black widow spider…when men get stuck in her web, they are putty in her loins! There are some women that just have a natural sensuality that helps them get attention from men…Women probably want to hurt her and be her to some degree, she oozes seduction…

This isn’t the first time she ended up with a guy who was in a relationship…Laura Dern and Billy Bob Thornton were a couple when Angelina met him! Hmmmm… PATTERN??? Angelina co-starred with Thornton in 1999’s “Pushing Tin”. Billy Bob and Laura had invested in a Hollywood home. According to the New York Daily News, “Billy Bob called Laura to say he had no intention of marrying Angelina and was just “doing his thing”. Four days later, Thornton and Jolie eloped to Las Vegas. Laura said: “I left home to work on a movie and while I was away, my boyfriend got married, and I’ve never heard from him again, she said it was like a sudden death.”

The big question today is: Why would Angelina bring up that she was in love with Brad “during the filming of Mr & Mrs. Smith, after saying over and over again, that she didn’t break up Jen and Brad, and it was AFTER the movie that they got together! What is the purpose of bringing that up now? Is she trying to rub salt in the wound a few years later? Is Angelina feeling insecure and trying to make Jennifer angry at Brad Pitt, to keep him away???…What is her motive?

That just adds to Jennifer’s heartbreak, after rubbing six kids in her nose, and then non-stop media about Jennifer and her love life! (Which hasn’t gone well since Brad left her)…She was totally in love with Brad, and it is not easy to replace that, especially when the love of her life destroyed her trust! Losing that faith leaves a big scar, and it is not easy to get back on the horse again…All the guys she has been with since, have been band-aids and not even close to who she should be with…John Mayer? What is that all about? He is a nice guy but not ready to play house yet…Jennifer needs a strong man, someone grounded, who puts her first. She is a sweet person, “what you see is what you get”. She deserves to be happy…We are here for you Jen, and wish you nothing but wonderful things in the years to come…xoxo the beavers

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This is a show about all our wonderful delivery and home services and the employees attached. How many of us ever talk to these people who we see on a daily basis? Do you know their names? Whether it is your residence or place of employment, do you take a moment to look up and say a pleasant hello? Or are you totally attracted to them and really LOVE these service employees and say a lot more than HELLO!…maybe a little bit too much more!

I have spoken with many guys in the delivery industry on this subject but not any women. If you know any stories about women approached by their customers, please write in…From my conversations with men, there are a lot of lonely women sitting at home waiting on that so-called delivery!

There are some amazing stories and not too far off from what transpires on Desperate Housewives with “the painters and gardeners”! One Milkman I was recently talking with, said that “some women actually meet him at the door wearing sexy lingerie”! The funny thing is, they are making excuses and apologizing for not being ready to meet someone at their front door so early in the morning! (OH they were READY all right)…When Holidays come, there are extra special treats from the lady of the house. Suggestive comments, little hugs, Christmas cards that are a little more playful. Some of the women are actually competitive with their neighbors about their service man! It is like they are, their own personal property!

I asked one Milkman if he ever REALLY delivered (the cream) to any of these ladies temptations…He said NO because he is happily married, but he knew of some younger guys who occasionally indulged. I guess it is like the Mile High Club; it is a fantasy for some! Why not take advantage of it? Hey, it’s all about job perks isn’t it? I asked my source where they would park the truck during one of these romps…It would be pretty obvious to the neighbors if the milkman stayed longer than a few minutes at a house…guess it would be OK if she lived in a country home with a very long drive way! He said that it is basically a quickie (the 2 minute man) so that the truck isn’t sitting too long…I still think it would be noticeable! Every Gladys Kravitz (from Bewitched) would be all over that one!

Pool Boy Service (so to speak lol) is much easier, especially if you have a closed in garden area! I have always fantasized about the Pool Boy! Mainly it was the pool I was fantasizing about, I don’t have one! In the movies Pool Boys are always hot young guys with big packages! Porno’s use this scenario all the time…But in reality it is one of the bigger fantasies for the ladies of leisure!

Not all women like the pool boy… Back in 2006, Britney Spears fired her pool boy for talking too much to her husband Kevin Federline. Jon LaLanne the ex-employee was hanging out a little bit too much and causing Federline to slack off talking to him all the time Britney was not impressed and started screaming at Kevin for lying around! The next day, LaLanne, said he got a call from Spears’ people, telling him not to report for work. LaLanne, is the son of exercise guru Jack LaLanne…Jon also has a band he and Kevin would talk music. He said, Spears would get jealous when her hubby talked to anyone else. “She wants Kevin on a leash,” LaLanne told a magazine.

Another good service would be a Massage Therapist that comes to your home! Could it get an easier than that if you both complied with a little hanky panky? I once went for a massage with this blind guy in Bangkok. The crew all told me about him and how good he was…He wasn’t BLIND! He was maybe a little “sight challenged” but he knew where his hand was every time he said sorry…whoops…He was milking it…I wouldn’t have minded so much if he had been 25 and hot!…He was about 70!

What about Couriers and the Fed-Ex Guy? Many times they arrive first thing in the morning when people are just getting up and are not dressed! Is this don on purpose??? To catch us in the buff? Can you imagine how many stories go around their office with what they see and hear at a regular customer’s home or work environment. We were receiving regular packages for one guy at work from FED EX and we were all starting to wonder what he was doing on the side…He has a great sense of humor so we wrote Rotating Rosemary- Blow Up Doll in big letters on all side of the side of the box…Dave the fed-ex guy, and I were killing ourselves laughing!!

Can you imagine how many plain paper packages they deliver with special toys for people…ohhhh the secrets…That would be a good movie title…FED-EX stories of customer’s closet fantasies! Some strippers even use The Fed Ex guy as their dress-up act…So there must be something rewarding and sexy to this job, in real life…Some of the real fed ex guys are pretty built from carrying heavy packages around all day…And up and down stairs etc…Same with Mail carriers! How often do you see over weight letter carriers??…

Here is a funny joke I got on line about mailmen:
# It’s near Christmas & the mailman is delivering packages. A woman opens the door in a sexy negligee and invites him in. Surprised, he follows her to the bedroom where they proceed to have sex. After it’s over, the woman hands him a dollar. The mailman, puzzled, asked why? The woman replied, “well, while I was making my shopping list I asked my husband, honey, what should we give that nice mailman for Christmas?” and he replied, “fuck the mailman, give him a dollar!”

The beavers always treat everyone with the same respect, regardless of status or occupation. We are all just trying to make our way in life…Some of us show our appreciation more than necessary. Whatever the case, be pleasant to these service people, don’t take advantage of them if you are married, unless you pay them well LOL…(some of you may have to pay them really well down the road in blackmail, if you are not careful!) Watch the temptation, it may not be worth it in the end…If you are single, go for it and write us with your stories! xoxo the beavers

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DATING A FRIEND’S EX - VIDEO:

Today’s topic was chosen from one of our YouTube listeners named: iamasuperwoman. We are keeping our promise to use people’s suggestions for show topics…keep em coming! Her Question is: IS IT OK TO DATE YOUR EX’S FRIEND? This question seems straight forward enough, but when you start to openly discuss the variables, you realize it is not a cut and dry answer….

Ponder These Questions:

How close are you to this EX?
Did you break-up on good terms?
Was it done respectfully?
How long ago was it?
How close a friend is this person to your EX?
Men and women totally respond differently to this scenario…For the most part women are NOT OK with her EX, dating one of her girlfriends! Maybe if 10 years has gone by and it wasn’t her Ex husband~ (And she is now happily married to George Clooney)
When talking with other women, we have found that there is still a territorial ownership with a long-term EX…

Use Heather Locklear and Denise Richards for an example…that definitely wasn’t OK on Denise’s part…I am not sure whether it is a coincidence but Heather has had a lot of PERSONAL problems since…Rehab, Depression, Drinking and driving etc…Back stabbing friends sleeping with your EX 2 weeks later certainly don’t help you deal with things easier… Women use emotion when dealing with a past love, the hurt will linger for years or will be under the surface ready to pounce at any given moment…WE NEVER FORGET! We give elephants a whole new meaning LOL…

With men, it is usually more Ego driven, especially if they get dumped… But for the most part, they are much stronger at moving on from a relationship than we are…they don’t dwell on the good things, they pay attention to what didn’t work…If there is a great friendship between you and your EX, you must be up front about this budding romance with their buddy, if you want to keep them as a friend. If it is more important to have this new Love in your life, than you make the choice to your best advantage. Weighing out the repercussions first, is the mature approach, when falling for your Ex’s friend…Rubbing their nose in it putting your own happiness first, is not loyalty…Listen to our Karma episode!

I dated a friend’s ex-boyfriend 5 years AFTER she had a casual 4-month relationship with him…I told her I had hooked up with him before we got too into each other. She was a little miffed at first, because he dumped HER…we talked it through and she was OK with it in the end…But she did tell me all his shortcomings…When someone is hurt, in the demise of a relationship, seeing him or her happy with your friend is not a great feeling…They ask themselves… Why does it work with them and not you! One thing to pay attention to in a situation like this:

Is what caused them to break up with your friend? You might want to listen to how it ended; there could be some RED FLAGSfor YOU to be aware of…

If your Ex is a really popular person and knows half of your city, it may be hard NOT to date one of their friends, as the circle is too big to avoid this. You shouldn’t have to alter your life drastically to avoid their EX’s…If you can be honest with your EX, it is really worth the time to ask for their approval, so you don’t have to sneak around or give up on the idea from the start. It could be a very feasible relationship that lasts forever! Be careful not to play both sides of the fence if they ARE Kosher about your dating them…Don’t ask for their advice sexually or on ANY personal front! If you walk in their backyard, know the Etiquette involved…Dating a friend’s Ex can cost you both a good friend and possibly the love of your life. If you feel you must pursue the relationship despite the personal history between the two of them remember loyalty to your friendship should come first…

If their relationship is truly over, you should be free to date them. As a friend, however, you do have an obligation…After OK-ing it with them, you will have to tone down discussions of your new romance, so you don’t destroy your friendship with them. You might want to tell them why you just HAD to choose their EX over all the other people in the world…Make it a good one! (You bastard LOL) Put the shoe on the other foot, how would it feel to see your EX in your friends arms or end up at their wedding not long after! Make sure they are WORTH It. Make sure their relationship is REALLY over and one of them is not playing games or using you for the jealousy card. Wait at least a few months, before pouncing on them! Even if you have been lusting for this person forever! Don’t use friendship sympathy or vulnerability to pursue them either! You may be the one who gets the short end of the stick probably from both of them!

Do not talk about the EX even if they did give you their blessing, good or Bad stuff. You will miss not being able to shoot the shit with them about your relationship like you may have, in the past… Make your friend as comfortable as possible around both of you if you do end up at a party or mutual haunt at the same time. Some people are so removed from their EX that they can actually hang out together as couples…To keep your own friendship solid you may have to plan a separate night out to let your friend know you haven’t abandoned the friendship entirely.

Everybody handles former relationships differently, so you may find yourself temporarily at odds with your friend, or you may be pleasantly surprised at their acceptance of this situation. Remember it can easily happen to you in reverse so the best policy is, to weigh it all out and be fair about the outcome! Don’t make it a problem JUST because you don’t want your EX to be happy…Leave the green eyed monster out of it and go live your life better!

xoxo the beavers

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KARMA VIDEO:

What exactly does the word Karma mean? Is Karma B.S?

Short version: (What goes around come around…good or bad)
The Long version: The Law of Karma “In Buddhist teaching, the law of karma, says “`for every event that occurs, there will follow another event whose existence was caused by the first, and this second event will be pleasant or unpleasant according to the initial intent…Therefore, the law of Karma teaches that responsibility for actions, is born by the person who commits them. How many times have you heard the word Karma in the last 5 years? I use it all the time actually! If you put out something to “The Universe” in a negative or positive way, things have a way of “paying you back”…Not always in the way that you want, and not always when you want! Be very careful that you are not waiting for Karma to take place, because you did one good deed…It doesn’t work that way unfortunately…

You really need to do things because you are a nice person not because there may be a benefit at the end…Have you ever met someone who always seems to havehorseshoes up their ASS? Everything comes to them with little effort…Frustrating as it may seem, it isn’t a coincidence…they are either getting away with something devious, or they have earned their way somehow, previous to this continual luck…

Remember the movie Pay It Forward?…It was about when one good deed was started, it kept many more good deeds happening as a result because you always had to pay that good deed forward to a another person…How wonderful it would be, if the world we lived in had to practice this daily! It would lessen [/tag-tec]POWER jealousies[/tag-tec] between the nations…

Once you have grasped the benefits of Karma’s Rewards, you will start to practice this regularly and for the most part subconsciously…You will just DO the right thing, because in the back of your mind is a sort of nagging feeling…maybe it is guilt? Let’s face it, we all have the devil on one shoulder and the Angel on the other sometimes in our lives…occasionally we don’t want to play fair or always do the expected response! We want REVENGE! Especially if someone has been really nasty about it something! Like an EX or a backstabbing friend…

An example of Karma is when my girlfriends have gone through dating a married man. The men leave their wives for them, and a few years later repeat the same scenario again on my girlfriends, with another girl, that replaces THEM! We have to understand that when we do something to another person, it may come back to haunt you, and it usually does!

Are you a person who gets speeding ticket after speeding ticket or who has had many car accidents because of impatience? Karma is trying to tell you something…Look at the Big Boys of Enron? It finally caught up with them didn’t it? Jimmy Baker went to jail for taking advantage of the Church’s money…Don’t backstab God, you can’t win that war… Life is complicated and stressful when you don’t recognize life’s value in one form or another. Good things really do come to good people…Cliché or not! Regardless of whether you believe in Karma in the true sense of it’s meaning, practicing it regularly will only bring you wealth, in all areas of your life. So why not be that good person to the best of your ability? At the very least, it will make you smile, when you see others smile, due to your actions…
xoxo the beavers

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HOW TO CAPTIVATE A WOMAN - VIDEO:

HOW TO CAPTIVATE A WOMAN! Here is another show suggestion from one of our listeners, Paul. He is a fellow Canadian actually…His question is: What is The Art of Captivating a woman? He says it is not to be confused with making a woman a “little interested”…So Paul…we gather you are asking how to approach a person so that it makes a man stand out and get undivided attention from the woman he chooses to captivate? First of all…what does captivate mean?…It may have different meanings to different people? Is it a game to some? Is it serious?

Captivate means… to hold the attention of someone by being extremely interesting, exciting, charming or attractive. Ex.: With her beauty and charm, she captivated film audiences everywhere. Another Meaning: Capturing interest as if by a spell…bewitching, enchanting, fascinating and enthralling…

If you are able to put all these attributes “out there” confidently, why would anyone ever be dateless? the operative word is CONFIDENCE! So the first rule of thumb is, if you want to captivate someone, you must be confident…

How many people truly are? We’re so fucked up with our [tag]insecurities[/tag-tec] that it prohibits our confidence from surfacing… like a damn submarine! Why are we allowing something to be sabotaged before we even try? Is this why Tony Robbins is so successful? Because he teaches people how to be Captivating, so to speak…Anyone who can hold an audience’s attention has learned “The Art of Captivation”…Obama, Oprah, Madonna, Clinton, Angelina Jolie all have this! They all “hold court“! There is a good and bad way to learn how to get someone’s attention and it truly is an ART…We all know the annoying ones like “in your face leaders” Jimmy Baker and George Bush!

But on a romantic level, it is not about selling a product to the masses, it is about sincerity and being real to that person who has captured your attention… While the beavers are not huge believers in “love at first sight“, we are believers in powerful chemistry at first sight! We all must learn not to let that pass us by, because we do NOT KNOW how to enchant that person before us…How many times do you kick yourself for being a WHIMP!

I have so many girlfriends who are too shy to even say hi to a guy they have “the hots” for, and he is standing right beside them at the gym or at work! What the Hell do you have to lose by talking casually to him? Maybe one moment of embarrassment, to what could be a great relationship or at least some fabulous sexfor a while…We really are our own worst enemy aren’t we? No one else is in charge of us! (at least they shouldn’t be)

Lets talk about what women like initially, when approached by a man:

We like it when a man approaches us before he has had 10 beers and at a reasonable hour…not last call! LOL
Eye contact is important, not boob contact.
A nice opening line with some wit or sincerity attached
A nice gesture such as helping with her coat if you can see she is struggling with it getting up from her seat. (I had a fellow do that the other day)
Strikes up a conversation easily without too much hesitation.
Speaks confidently about why he has approached her!
Gives her HIS business card or number
Ask great questions and listens to what she says
Follows through on calling her within a day or so.
Doesn’t play the wait game and puts himself out there
Isn’t egotistical and makes HER feel important
Has no problem complimenting her in a room full of people
Stands up for her at any given moment!

He isn’t worried about what other guys say to him, when he puts her first much of the time…he is OK by ribbing from his buddies because he is confident !He is protective and pursues her all the while he is in the relationship. He is romantic and not complacent…He holds her attention and because of this, all she sees is him, she is not interested in anyone else …where would she go, if it was this good?

If you are shy and meeting people isn’t your strong point, learn how to open a conversation…Check out our opening pick-up line shows 1 & 2. They are in Video and Audio/Blog format on beavertalk.com and Video on YouTube. Being shy is an excuse, and learning how to get out of that box will only improve your life! It is not that easy to make a woman feel attracted to you. Many guys don’t understand what women look for in a partner, they think it is all about the wallet, their car or their looks…We really are just looking for a good man! (well most of us!) There are definitely materialistic gold diggers out there…But come on guys, they are so transparent they make Casper look human!

Figure out what is most important to her about a man’s characteristics. Give her options when first meeting her, giving her a little power. “I would love to take you out in the next week, what day works best for you?…What is your favorite menu?”…Observe her while you are talking and see what she’s all about…Pay attention!

Here are some nice things to say to them while you are getting to know them and on a continual basis within the relationship…Be sincere and mean what you say…

“When can we meet again?… How do you know all this?…I’m so impressed…I’ve never met someone man like you before… I like who I am when I’m with you…You’re really funny!…I love that you are so confident!…I love the way you look at things…I love to hear what you think…I’m happy when I’m with you”…

And last but not least….Women love when men say…“I love being with you…and… Thank you” (often!) xoxo the beavers

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WHY IT TAKES 6 MONTHS… - VIDEO:

WHY DOES IT TAKE 6 MONTHS FOR PEOPLE TO SHOW WHO THEY REALLY ARE, WHEN IN A RELATIONSHIP? People are guarded and want to protect themselves from getting hurt…so they hide behind a mask and only give so much of themselves. They hide their Vulnerability to see where the relationship goes first…Some people go so for as to play the part like a Lead Role in a movie! At the end of 6 months you are none the wiser that they are really an axe murderer…

(It can be easier for a guy to do that, as he doesn’t get PMS every month…women cannot fake that lovely emotional time…we bare it all!)

There are “serial six month monogamists” that date ONLY for 6 months and then move on to the next short term relationship…Let’s face it, the best part of new relationships is the word “NEW”… New means “exciting”…Plus it is easy to bullshit for 6 months but not so much after that…too many lies can surface, you’re more transparent!

So… now you think you finally found someone that rocks your world, and you are going in for the kill! Ignoring all the rules about “in fast/ out fast”…Before you got involved did you ask any questions about them? Did you Google them? Are they married, divorced, living with someone? How long have they been single for? Do they have kids? It is a good idea to ask lots of questions without sounding like an interviewer…and do a little research especially if you know people who know them!

Most of us fall for the physical or sexual chemistry initially, and ignore ANY red flags in the first 6 months…Open your eyes when first meeting someone…there are certain things about a person that they have trouble hiding, within a few days or weeks of meeting them. There are many other quirks or attributes that take some time to know about a person in order for you to really make a concrete decision whether to continue on, or stop seeing the person. Realistically it is not advisable to move in or spontaneously marry someone in the first 3-6 months of a relationship when you are likely running on sexual adrenalin or Oxytocin, which is a chemical found in chocolate. “Oxytocin creates a euphoria that comes with that early “falling in love” feeling!” In other words you are in fantasy-land and your brain is NOT in control, your loins are! So how do we avoid these “chocolate cravings” and be smart about the initial stages of a relationship?

What is the family background like? Any Wackos? Royalty
Do they want a monogamous commitment?
Do they plan on living the same city?
Career goals…Is it something that you could live with if you should become serious?
Are they seeing a therapist or just released from a Psych Ward?
Religion or other Spiritual beliefs are they a part of the KKK???
Sexual attitudes and preferences, are they a kinkster or have unusual fetishes? Sexual History?
Are they VEGAN? And YOU EAT anything that moves?
Are you compatible with their interests or hobbies?
After observing their answers and actions over the next 3-6 months you should know where you stand and if there is a future…Why waste 2 years figuring it out especially if you are older…You should know what you want by now…You should definitely be feeling more than just lust at this stage. If it is not a mutual relationship progression you should move on.

IF YOU FEEL LOVED and also love them for the right reasons, you will know within a year! Knowing what you want, reciprocated communication and knowing how to compromise, is when you know you have found that special someone! It shouldn’t be a lot of work and when it is right, it should feel comfortable, without continual drama…It should be your safe place to fall…xoxox the beavers

For the Podcast audio in MP3 for this topic, please click this link: PMS TIPS FOR MEN! or go to: http://www.leaveittwobeavers.com/mp3/beavers143b.mp3

PMS TIPS FOR MEN - VIDEO:

This segment PMS TIPS FOR GUYS, is for our male listeners but women may get something out of it as well…Both sexes would agree that women got the short end of the stick when it comes to nature’s plumbing! How many men would trade bodies with a female for a month?? Maybe for a couple of sexual experimenting days with men playing with their new body parts…LOL… but how many guys could deal with one menstrual cycle, let alone being pregnant for 9 months and giving birth!

Men’s pain threshold is usually less than that of a woman. We were given the reproductive organs for a reason! There is a lot that goes on inside a female’s anatomy, and it is not all that easy for many. All women are different and each cycle varies for each woman.

If your girl is on the birth control pill, chances are she has less pain and less PMS symptoms…The pill controls how long her cycle will normally be as well…Many girls will be 5 days or more without the pill…There are usually less cramps and flow as well…Sounds like a good idea but many women are opting out of taking the pill, due to the added Estrogen they are ingesting…And the Medical complications that are rising with the {tag-tec]Estrogens[/tag-tec] our environment is producing!

If your lady is using an IUD, she could have more discomfort due to cramping etc…personally I have never understood how that form of birth controlwas ever popular! Just what you want, more pain and more boxes of tampons under the sink!

Many men are not overly sympathetic when a woman is PMS. Women might understand that better if they live in a house with other women and see how they behave during their time of the month. I have some girlfriends that I can tell it is coming before they even know it is…

There are signs that don’t vary from month to month so it is these routine visuals that become the warning signs…Examples: More emotional, short-tempered, impatient, yells more at the kids, feels ugly/fat…can’t find something to wear…Cravings are a dead give-away, she may have a sweet toothfor days…

And guys, don’t confuse this time with your women being extra horny, that is usually during her ovulation NOT her menstrual cycle…Ovulation is nature’s baby making serum…If she is frisky it will usually be after day 3…What can you do to make this time of the month work for you? Or at least to help get you through it unscathed? Tell her she looks great and give her extra hugs. The first 2 days are the worst, so plan your business trips around that time if you have the flexibility…

It is a good idea to keep a mental Calendar of her cycle…I don’t think I would circle the days in red though, or you may lose your nuts if she sees it…LOL Do not tell her she looks FAT when she asks you!

DO NOT MUTTER under your breath: “You must be on the RAG”! Buy Take- Out, and chocolate on the way home from work…Don’t go overboard though or she will be depressed if she ate a lot of fattening food… Run her a bath occasionally or get her out for a walk for 30 minutes…exercise will help clear her moods…

Be compassionate even if you have to fake it! Imagine what it would be like to have a big wad of cotton shoved up your Wazoo every 3 hours…Be thankful you are a guy and keep reminding yourself of that!…xoxo the beavers

For the Podcast audio in MP3 for this topic, please click this link: WHAT’S MISSING FROM YOUR LIFE? or go to: http://www.leaveittwobeavers.com/mp3/beavers143a.mp3

WHAT’S MISSING - VIDEO:

Today’s topic is: What’s missing from your life?The reason we chose this topic is because it suits most people at ANY age…whether you are in your 20’s or 70’s, we all have questions about our life’s direction…

Are you bored?
Busy with too many projects?
Feel empty romantically?
Depressed with your job? Is it a dead end?
Feel trapped in a situation like marriage, kids, and family drama?

Have we hit at least one of your buttons yet?

For the most part, we could all use some change in our lives and the old expression: A change is as good as a rest should be altered to: A change is needed to grow!!…we don’t usually need to rest, we need diversity to feel alive!

There are many people that busy themselves with mundane projects to give their life a purpose, but they are not happy, they are just passing time and giving themselves something to feel important…we all NEED to feel like we are making a difference, at least once in a while!

Sandra and I are restless people and need projects and change fairly often, which is why this show works for us…It gives us something NEW to discover each week. We are getting tired of the relationship topics and are trying to branch out into a variety of subjects…

LOVE will always be a great conversation, but when other aspects of your life ARE complete, is when it knocks on your door…not usually the other way around… Love needs to find a “whole person”… to be nurtured. How many times have you had crap in your life that has ruined a romance? If you don’t deal with it, it plays a part in your relationships.

It is a lot easier said than done, making any changes in your life and each birthday does not make it easier for many people…It just re-affirms what is missing and what hasn’t been done to change things! Saying that, birthdays are the time I use to look back and make some revisions every year…many people use New Year’s Eve as their resolution time but I have always felt that birthdays are awakening times…Especially the milestone ones!! If they don’t wake your ASS up, nothing will!

How is your conscience? Do you dream a lot? Dreams can literally wake you up! I had concurring dreams for 2 years about my job as a flight attendant…I was missing flights, dreaming about airplane mechanical issues, emergency landings and other scary shit! I realized that my subconscious wanted me out of the airline! I started having anxiety before every flight, probably due to my dreams as well! For example…Were they premonitions??????

If you have to stifle yourself due to too many boundaries, they need adjusting to allow more freedom or flexibility…If you have too much time on your hands which is many people’s dilemma, it can be very depressing…You don’t feel worthy, as you are not using your time here on earth in a valuable way…

People that opt out of having a family can feel like something is missing as they get older. Holidays are not as meaningful without family running around…you may not even realize that is bothering you until you put yourself into a scenario at someone’s home who have children…

What most people are missing in their lives is not External things, but Internal…It is usually a feeling or emotion that is not being met… In other words, WE are the only obstacle that keeps us unhappy or feeling like we are missing something as we are ultimately in charge of US!

It is all about what you do with your time on this planet…If you are constantly changing partners, jobs, locations, or friends…something internally is missing…you are soul searching! Most of us do not realize this for years! We drive ourselves and everyone else around us crazy with our continual projects and “Ants In The Pants” attitude…

We become far too serious and forget how to laugh…We then become depressed. Laughter is like Prozac, but rather than bring that into our lives, we pop the little pink pill because it’s easy…We have to learn how to make our lives full in all aspects, before we start medicating. We have to STOP running away from ourselves and enjoy being comfortable in our own skin…xoxo the beavers

3 DATING QUESTIONS - VIDEO:

Shooting from the hip, Susan & Sandra answer 3 Dating Questions:
1. Who pays for the meal on a date in a gay or lesbian situation?
2. Is it better to date someone you know, or go on a blind date?
3. I’m in a good relationship but I have a secret admirer - what should I do?

For the Podcast audio in MP3 for this topic, please click this link: MECHANICS 101 FOR WOMEN (AND SOME MEN) or go to: http://www.leaveittwobeavers.com/mp3/beavers142b.mp3

MECHANICS 101 VIEDO - CLASS ‘A’

MECHANICS 101 VIDEO - CLASS ‘B’

Our show today, Mechanics 101 For Women, was chosen because of the financial problems happening in The US Economy and also the rest of the world…We all have to start buckling down with our expenses and one of them is our personal items…I just had an accident and my car was written off and I can’t afford to buy a new one! Many people are fixing up their old cars and hanging onto them for the same reason.

What do we need to know about our car so that when we take it to a repair shop, we actually sound intelligent?…We hate to sound negative, but some places still take advantage of ignorant or mechanically challenged customers…The beaversdecided to try our best to give you automobile challenged people out there a 101 crash course in car mechanics…bear with us because we are challenged too!! I had a quick course Tuesday night and took some notes so here goes:

CAR OIL:
530 is used for many cars for temperature extremes 20F-90F
1040 is used for 35F – 105F ( Examples:Texas / Arizona)
030 is used for –40F-70F ( Alaska/ Canada) This means that their summer and winter oil choices will change with those two seasons.

OIL FILTER:
Cleans your oil…think of a water filter on your tap…(that is the basics)
Oil and filter needs changing 8000-15,000 kms or 5000-9000 miles

SPARK PLUGS:
Every GAS car has them minimum 1 spark plug per cylinder. Some cylinders need 2 spark plugs each but don’t ask me which one, haven’t got a clue! Cars range from having 3 cylinders (small Suzuki) to V12 BMW Mercedes/ Jaguar etc…
Diesel Cars: have no spark plugs (they have glow plugs only for starting the car)

TUNE-UPS:
ARE NOW EVERY 2-4 YEARS!! It used to be every 6 months to a year!

VALVES:
There are 2 per cylinder, but some cars can have 3 or 4 per cylinder
Valves allow the car’s gas air mixture to burn when the spark plug fires…we call this an auto orgasm!

BIG BLACK HOSE: COOLING HOSE FOR THE RADIATOR ($60 approx}
This keeps the Orgasm under control so it lasts longer…OK, in non-sex terms it keeps the engine from over heating…to replace the entire radiator it will cost $600- $800 for average
Luxury Cars will be much more ( Ferrari $6,000, BMW $1000)

BRAKE ROTOR OR BRAKE DISC: brake job $500- $2000
Think about your bicycle for a moment…when you press the handle levers, a pad squeezes the tires and stops the bike or slows it down depending on the pressure applied…The Rotor is right behind your car wheel and when you press your foot on the brake pedal, it pushes the brake pad against the Rotor…just like your bike wheel…The friction stops the car.

FAN BELT: $50 (Keep an extra pair of tights in the glove compartment)
The car’s engine spins off the Fan Belt and without one, the engine will not perform…if you hear a screeching sound from your engine, you fan belt needs replacing…pantyhose can be a temporary replacement! A g-string may work too… Go girls!

ANTI-FREEZE:
Goes in the radiator 50/50 water ratio to anti freeze –40-120F
Needs changing every 2 years, but top with water occasionally…if there are any leaks from the hoses or radiator, your anti-freeze ratio will be depleted every time you add water…Antifreeze keeps the engine temperature regulated through hot/cold weather patterns…very important…You also need to use special anti-freeze windshield washer fluid too…this will keep it from freezing in the winter…

CAR LIGHT BULBS: EXTERIOR AND INTERIOR
They can be complicated to put in on some cars so if you buy them at the dealer, they will usually do it for free for you.

JUMPER CABLES: always carry a pair in your car!
I cannot tell you how many cars I have had to jump over the years, oh wait, that’s men! I have had to jump their car because they didn’t have cables nor knew how to use them it! I was shocked…

When using the cables, put the positive cable on the dead car’s positive battery terminal, then the positive cable on the live car…next… put the negative cable on the dead car’s negative battery terminal, and the negative cable on the live car…
To remember which one goes on first, “think positive” that you will start your car!

Some batteries do not show a plus or negative sign on the battery terminal, so always remember that positive is RED! Just like in the movies, the red wire is always the power source!

One final piece of advice in today’s mechanic 101 class, please make sure you have a Jack and a spare tire that actually fits your car! Before using your Jack, loosen the lug nuts on the center wheel using the [tag-tec]tire wrench that is located in the spare tire compartment in your trunk …So, which way do you undo them? Remember this phrase:“ tighty righty” and “loosey lefty”! If you don’t do this before the car is raised up, the tire will just spin around, as the lug nuts are on super tight…the ground will give you leverage to turn them.

Put the car jack under the car frame (the owners manual in your glove box will probably have jack points listed) if not, use a secure part of the frame (not in a rusty hole)…undo all the other lug nuts and take the wheel off, replace the other one and put the lugs back on loosely…lower the car down slowly pumping the jack and then finish tightening the lug nuts with the tire wrench. If you have problems with your nuts being to tight or rusted on, carry WD40 in your trunk…It will help loosen them…

If you live in a cold climate make sure you have de-icing fluid for your car locks, but keep it in your purse! If it is in the glove compartment, it won’t do you any good in there LOL! ! And with that we are finished our 101 class. We hope this has helped and that you take the time to work on your automotive knowledge. Everyone should know a little about the car they risk their lives in everyday on the roadways…Be safe and drive carefully…ciao for now…with love, XOXO the beavers

For the Podcast audio in MP3 for this topic, please click this link: SPOUSAL SURVIVAL DURING THE NFL SEASON! or go to: http://www.leaveittwobeavers.com/mp3/beavers142a.mp3

SURVIVING THE NFL SEASON - VIDEO:

Today’s topic is titled: SPOUSAL SURVIVAL DURING THE NFL SEASON

This may sound like a predominantly female topic, but there are many partners out there (male and female) that get left in the dust during football season…and not just football I may add, all seasonal sports…Right now it is extra hard on non sporty people, as the Major League Baseball playoffs are on, and the NFL regular season started Sept 4th!

Keep in mind that the NFL season goes from Sept 4th until The Superbowl on Feb 1, 2009…This year it is in Tampa, Florida at the Raymond James Stadium…If you want to make your jewelry collection better than what you have received from the More “head” Collection, get them Tickets for the Superbowl! Most guys would give their left nut for that!

There is lots of prep before the season starts with Football pools and Shop talk which can make the season feel even longer if you are not a fan! Some women are getting into football a bit more in the Milliniem, as they take on a “can’t beat em…join em!” attitude…Dancing with the stars has helped quite a bit too as some of the dancing contestants are from the NFL and quite hot too!

Many of the players look pretty fit and powerful in those football tights, what’s not to like even if you don’t understand the friggen game! (Maybe with the exception of some of the linebackers)… they can be pretty big and bulky!

So…what CAN you do you do, if you are a NFL widow? :
Getting involved in a football pool will keep you interested in what is going on in the standings…You don’t even have to watch the games, but keeping up on the stats will give you and your partner something to talk about…

You can use the game times to see your pals, or start a fresh hobby for each season. You can also use it as ammunition to barter for something else that your partner won’t normally do…Salsa classes, chick flick etc…In my case, I have always been the sports junkie and I am the one holding the TV remote…I have to make all the concessions…”how about a BJ during half time honey?” It is usually a no brainer trade-off! LOL…Girls, you could try getting his attention at half time by doing your own cheer-leading show! Of course if he always has the boys over for games, you will have to perform for an audience…

If you REALLY do want to understand the game but your partner is not the best teacher, or you want to surprise them with your amazing knowledge, Google: football rules and learn on your own…That could work for lots of other things in your relationship too! Like the G-spot!! Here are a few things we found when we googled it…you can do your own homework with the particulars, these are just the basics…

• Learn the dimensions of the playing field as well as many of the basic terms associated with a football field. Example: He just ran 40 yards!
• Each team is comprised of Offence, Defence and Kickers etc.
• What is the objective of this game?
• What does Opening Kickoff mean?
• What is a Down?
• How do they score?
If you have absolutely no interest in football, and are just pissed off that for part of the year you have less attention, you need to come to a compromise with your partner…A week alone, or with pals in Vegas, sounds reasonable… Sundays & Monday night football is a way of life with true Fans, and nothing short of divorce will pry some avid Fans away from the TV…

Let it go one night a week and do some serious talking about how many other days will be a NFL priority…What will upset most spouses is, when there is no notice for something they plan to do, there has to be respect for each others time. I think that is probably the number one reason couples fight in the 1st place. How much money is involved with this passion for the NFL? The partner should get equivalent resources for their passion too, otherwise there will be resentment…
Speaking of which, here is a smart marketing strategy… All of the NFL teams have clothing for women now and some of them not bad…check out NFLSHOP.com…

Maybe women should band together and get some really sexy football apparel including shoes, so that when you go to the game or bars for football night, you are the HOT one in the room…They do have some NFL team shoes but they will not turn heads anytime soon…
We think a nice pair of Dallas Cowboy stilettos is just what women need to get noticed! Forget Gucci or Louis Vuitton…LOL

In Summary:
Spouses/partners out there in NFL land, if you want to nurture your relationship through the season make some compromises or have the patience to bring them into understanding the game…It keeps the relationship healthy if there is acknowledgement and appreciation on both parts. We all want to come home to someone who is accepting of our passions, we just have to realize when too much, is too much…HAPPY NFL SEASON!! REMEMBER, IF YOU CAN’T BEAT EM, JOIN EM…OR AT LEAST FIGHT BACK IN OTHER WAYS..LOL.
XOXO the beavers

For the Podcast audio in MP3 for this topic, please click this link: HOW TO APPROACH HIM! or go to: http://www.leaveittwobeavers.com/mp3/beavers141b.mp3

How to Approach Him - Video:

Many of our girlfriends complain of how men in Vancouver and many other big cities do not approach them. There is no connection, no hellos, even in a room full of people! Rather than make the effort themselves, the women get frustrated and hold a grudge, and keep repeating the phrase…”there’s NO men in this town!” So what is the answer then? Why do we still feel that men should do the pursuing when WE have changed all the other rules over time? Do we not understand how it must feel to a guy to do the asking, and then maybe get rejected? Are women being hypocritical?

Let’s get this straight, if you are over 25… you are most likely not meeting a potential date due to the stubbornness between both genders…The guys are fed up, and the women are playing the old school rule….He SHOULD ask me out! Girls we can’t have it both ways, we want to be accepted as an equal, why don’t we get this? You are NOT considered easy or a skank, if you ask a man out…You probably wouldn’t have to anyway, if you just made the first move with a shy hello as you passed him on the way to the ladies room…he would do the rest.

If you know him from somewhere that you both frequent, it is even easier because you can see what he is like, from watching behind the scenes…It can make the conversation easier when you do pass him in the hall, You could say wow, where did you get that jacket, nice tie, I love your new goatee, nice package!! (Dog parks are great for conversation starters even if you don’t have a dog! Sit at the sushi bar or bar counter in a restaurant…People talk when you are beside them that close…Go to lounges that have mingle type environments, so that at least there is a chance to meet someone…Restaurants for the most part, are too closed off to talk to your neighbours…

When we are under pressure, our bodies send out information about our true feelings… I am an open book and so easily read! I am more animated than the average person…My eyes say it all…Probably why I liked the back end of the trolley on an airplane LOL…Sandra is open too, but probably a little shier…

Do we know we are doing this? Usually not! Like most things in life, it is easier to receive than to give…which means we not in tune to what we are giving out, at least to what Celsius the temperature around us is it! (Ice queen) This can make others in the room self- conscious! They are asking themselves, why is she being so cold, what did I do???? Rather than be miffed by their response, ask them, “What happened…did I offend you”? First impressions are lasting impressions and you may not have a second chance, so what do you have to lose in asking any question to someo